What can a person who has sex on camera for money teach you about being yourself? Umm, how about how to go to straight to Hell! JK, of course. But in this “What [Villains] Can Teach You About Being Yourself” multi-part-series-of-unimaginable-magic-and-legitness, we’re looking at the lessons that can be learned from the VILLAINS of society (I know…we’re dangerous like that).
So, what can a pornstar teach you about being yourself? Well…a damn lot…
The problem, of course…
…is that people don’t respect them, right? They don’t think very much of them. I mean…pornstars aren’t exactly held up with the saints of the world as the greatest examples of how one should live their lives.
Cause apparently people who get naked and laid for money aren’t so looked-up-to in life, or all that esteemed either.
I know…it’s freaking shocking.
I could have swore at least a few in kindergarten pulled out the crayons and drew themselves with fishnet stockings when teacher told em to draw what they wanted to be when they grew up.
And so these women are obviously just written off as messed up girls; ones who have no respect for themselves or for those they love; who are so freakin desperate for money, and have so LITTLE dignity and self-respect that they’re willing to do whatever (or have whatever done to them) for a few extra bucks.
As if their family wouldn’t find out.
As if it were the same as any other job or something.
As if it were okay.
But, noooooo. It’s not, society says. It’s wrong. And so THEY’RE wrong.
And people say: “They’re whores. They’re tramps. They’re [omg] sluts.”
“They have sex for money, and so they’re hookers. No better. No different.”
All cause they’re no less willing to completely “embarrass” and “disrespect” themselves for money they should be earning doing something “honorable”.
Hookers have sex for money because they NEED money. Pornstars have sex for money because they LOVE sex.
And so, for [career] pornstars, it isn’t ABOUT the money.
They LOVE what they do. They GENUINELY fucking love it (no pun intended).
And no matter how weird it may seem, these women are legitimately, super-seriously, not-lying PROUD of what they do. Just watch them at their award show, like the Oscars of porn or whatever…
And I think it’s something worthy of respect.
Because these women CLEARLY don’t give a SHIT what others think of them.
They don’t CARE.
They don’t care what others say about them, or think about them, or believe about them. They don’t care that their family knows. They don’t care that their friends know. They don’t care that EVERY person they have met or will EVER meet needn’t do more than just pop their name into Google to see them as ANY other person would only be HORRIFIED to be seen.
Because they’re doing what they love.
Because that’s all that matters to them.
And because if that’s the case – if they’re doing what they love – what reason would they have to EVER feel ashamed at all?
And so, about your objections…
…Do you think they care what old dead religious books say about how they should live THEIR lives?
Do you think, as women, they determine their self-worth by the AMOUNT of their sexual partners relative to other women, as other women do – not wanting to seem too easy, or too slutty, or too low of standards for who they’re willing to sleep with?
Do you think they care AT ALL that what is (to them) an awesome, and freeing, and valuable thing – and EXACTLY what they want in life – is (to others) degrading, or shameful, or evil?
These are women who every day give a middle-finger to what society says is okay, or acceptable, or sin. They’re women who are totally willing to be neglected, or shunned, or thought less of, and lose family, and friends, and privacy to do what they love without self-judgment that what they love is wrong because OTHERS think it’s wrong.
And that’s an AMAZINGLY courageous thing.
It’s a damn RESPECTABLE thing – though you may disagree or disapprove of the way they show that courage and earn that respect.
Because make no mistake…these girls pay a steep price for what they love – a price in social stigma that damn near no one else is forced to pay to do what it is THEY love.
Cause imagine how many young men and women would become doctors if doing so meant they were disowned by their family.
Imagine how many kids would become teachers if doing so meant they would lose their friends.
Imagine how many dudes and ladies would join the military if doing so meant they were looked at as if they were trash every time they told others what they do.
And so…imagine, then, the COURAGE it must take to become and be a pornstar. Imagine the confidence it must take, and the belief in themselves and what they’re doing they must hold – not only to literally do what they’re paid to do, but simply to face the world AT ALL, when the world knows what it is they do and how it is they earn their living.
Lord knows I couldn’t do it.
I doubt I’m brave enough. I don’t I’m confident enough. I doubt I’m so determined in my path and place in life that I could endure the World’s judgment and still say “screw you”.
We should all be so lucky to be as confident as pornstars.
It’s a rare, rare thing. And what they do shouldn’t blind you to that.
Cause what they do is their choice, and their passion. And in a world of a lot of fear, and a lot of un-confidence, and a lot of directionless living, it’s something just not many have.
But it’s something that damn near EVERY person could use, and use now.
And so what can a pornstar teach you about being yourself…
…How bout that being yourself is more important than what others say or think.
How bout that confidence gives you the ability and freedom to pursue your passions – whatever your passions may be.
How bout that doing what you love because YOU love it is far better in life than doing what OTHERS would have you do because THEY tell you it’s better.
Now feel free to verbally ream me. What can YOU find worth admiring in a pornstar? Outside ALL your objections to the morality or immorality of it, could you EVER do something so risky or taboo? Comment below and share the post!